28 Jun

Hey everyone!

Sorry again that I haven’t posted, I have been so so busy, and haven’t really had time to sit down and let my mind rest!

However, something has come up again, and its something that really makes me angry!

The question of disclosure.

Now, I do completely understand that some people don’t want to be open about their being positive, and that’s fine, it’s their choice.

I have never hidden my status, and have found that it works for me.

In a recent conversation with a friend, I discovered he was on PEP.

He had had PROTECTED sex, but the condom had split, and only at this point did the guy reveal his HIV status.

My real issue with it is that in my opinion, and a very strong one at that, is that before they slept together, the guy who is positive should have told my friend.

My friend has even said he wouldn’t have rejected him, and it wouldn’t have changed anything, but at least he would have known the risk involved, if as it did, the rare chance of the condom splitting happened.

As a positive person, I am very much aware that I pose a risk to others, as my viral load is not undetectable, and even if it was, I would still disclose!

I feel obligated that with any sexual partner I have, I have to tell them.

I’m not by any means saying that I don’t believe that sero-different sexual relations should happen, because I’m not.

I just strongly believe that disclosure is important, so the negative person can make an informed choice.

Believe me, I know what rejection because of HIV feels like, but as crap as that feels, it’s something I believe has to be done.

I’m just so relieved that the guy told my friend immediately so that he could go and get PEP treatment and the guy is undetectable, so that my friend has a incredibly small chance of contracting the HIV virus.

Sorry about the rant, just had to get it out!

Just Jayce


Posted by on June 28, 2013 in My Blog


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3 responses to “Disclosure.

  1. Andrew Gill

    June 28, 2013 at 2:58 pm

    rants are good 🙂

  2. Sylvia (@EssbeeLace)

    June 28, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    No harm in ranting, better for you than bottling things up 🙂

  3. hivhero

    June 30, 2013 at 3:56 pm

    There are many reasons why HIV+ guys don’t disclose in advance It’s a very complicated matter. In many ways we, HIV+ undetectable guys, put our faith in condoms and if the condom hasn’t broken and you’re undetectable then there isn’t a possibility of transmission.
    I do disclose, because not disclosing then makes me paranoid that if something happens and I haven’t disclosed then I’ll have to deal with a shitstorm from my sexual partner. I can’t imagine having to tell someone if the condom breaks: oh sorry mate, am positive and you need to get yourself on PEP. Eeek!


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