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Overwhelming reflection.

Overwhelming reflection.

Hey everyone!

I hope you are all well?

It’s been an incredibly scary week for me. In my last post I spoke about publishing the preview of my upcoming memoirs on Amazon. This fear is, for me, justified and well founded, as I am, for the first time, speaking openly about my past. Speaking about myself has been something that has come very easy to me for the last two years – This because, through the mistakes I have made in life, I have grown to become a person I am comfortable with.

The book preview has done really well, far better than I thought it would have! It reached #1 Best Seller in two categories and reached the top 30 in the overall biographies on the kindle store – it was so overwhelming.

The biggest thing for me though, was not the placing of the book on a list, it was the reaction from people reading it. I spoke about things in my past I am not proud of – things I never thought I would reveal publicly. It wasn’t easy, in fact, just before I submitted it – there was a lot I hadn’t included.

I guess I expected a negative reaction. This, mostly because of snippets of and comments about it posted online when I was spoke about in the press. I spent hours in tears after reading things said about me in 2013, so much so that I took down my blog and suspended my twitter profile – it was a really difficult time.

Since writing in a blog, the feeling of freedom is hard to express in words. I don’t know how I would have coped without being able to freely talk about my feelings and thoughts…and it has been actually been incredibly liberating to extend that to before 2012! I faced one of my biggest fears.

Of course, this hasn’t come without it’s downside. It has been hard to relive moments from my life that I would love to forget, however, reliving it, and for the first time expressing my emotions about it, has taken a huge weight off me….it has freed me.

I am still working on the book, still decided what to include, and I really hope it is met with the same positive response that the first chapter has!

I owe every single one of you a huge debt of gratitude for giving me the strength to be able to do this, and for your absolute support and love during my journey.

All my love, as always,

Jayce
xx

 
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Posted by on January 29, 2015 in My Blog, Support Not Stigma

 

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The Book.

The Book.

Hey everyone!

I hope you’re all well!

Well today was a really exciting/nerve wracking day! I released the first look at my upcoming autobiography! If you know anything of me by now, it’s that I like to build up a bit of suspense!

Writing this book is something that has been suggested, and jested about for years. Mostly i shrugged it off, but I started to find myself considering it. A few times I sat down and began writing….but I always found it too difficult.

It is only now, having written in this blog for over two years, that I feel ready to extend my open-book (excuse the pun) approach to my life prior to being diagnosed.

It’s been a scary prospect for people to discover who I am behind ‘Just Jayce’. It has also been difficult to look back at who I once was. It has also been a journey in itself. A journey of acceptance of my past, and accepting that I am not all that bad anymore.

The book is available for download from Amazon Kindle, and via the kindle app on most devices using the link below, or by searching for ‘Jayce Carberry’ on the Kindle store.

I hope you all enjoy the preview, and I will finish the book as soon as I can :)

All my love, as always,

Jayce
xx

 
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Posted by on January 24, 2015 in Events, My Blog, Support Not Stigma

 

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What’s new?

Hey everyone! I hope you are all well!

So we are 10 days into 2015, and well…this year hasn’t got off to the great start I had hoped for. Work pressure has somewhat increased….at the worst possible time of year. Budgets are all but gone for training…leaving my fledgling business struggling to cope….and more so, me struggling to cope.

I haven’t been in a good financial situation for a while now – with bills, expenses and a business to run….it’s not been easy. It’s frustrating that, living in an area known for its higher than average unemployment rate…I’m not in the best geographical place to get an evening or weekend job either.

I do have something in the pipeline that will end my struggle….although it seems more and more out of reach as each day passes!

I guess my frustrations are increased, and my anxieties heightened because I have FINALLY listened to my doctor and HIV specialist and given up smoking! I have been told for a while that I should for what feels like forever, but I guess, I never wanted to before. I’m not really sure what has brought it on, but I am glad to have been able to do it – and relatively easily too! I am using a vapour nicotine substitute to combat cravings, but since the 27th December, I have been smoke free!

I already consciously eat healthily and ensure that I am well nourished, so I guess the next thing I should do, is to start exercising! I used to go running, and was always a keen swimmer….so I am hoping the transition back into it will be as easy as the smoking cessation!

My quest for a bubble butt and biceps is my driving force! Vanity….maybe….but I would love to be able to look in the mirror and be happy with the reflection. Over the last two and a half years, I have become very insecure….masked i guess, but countless selfies…that I can assure you, is never just one quick snap!

Other updates are that my autobiography is coming along….although the original date of completion has been pushed. I am really undecided about where to start the book – after making the decision not to focus on my childhood for personal reasons.

I have also agreed to write a short blog for GtenMedia – my first post was published earlier this month; just introducing myself and giving a brief rundown of the last few years!

Not much else to say guys, so I’ll leave it there!

All my love, as always,

Jayce
xx

 
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Posted by on January 10, 2015 in My Blog

 

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2014 – The year that everything changed

It’s that time of year again. The time when i sit in front of my laptop and reflect on another turbulent year. It has, as is the case for every year before it, been filled with highs and lows, laughter and tears and another huge learning curve.

This year has been one of personal development for me. Giving up on looking for love and for companionship – this year I concentrated on myself. I put my efforts into work this year and have ended the year, professionally, in a great place.

It started this year by teaming up with my mum’s training company and developing ‘Train The Change: HIV, AIDS & Stigma Awarness'; a training campaign aimed to improve awareness and try to help in stigma surrounding HIV & AIDS. As always with these things, red tape is put in place and barriers thrown up in front of you. Sex and relationship education in the UK is, at present, not a mandatory part of the national curriculum – something that is being fiercely fought for by people across the country.

The launch of Train The Change seemed to put me in a good light with big organisations, none more so than the Public Health Department of Kent County Council. I was asked to attend an international conference and give my views and advice on how to tackle the above average rate of late diagnosis in my part of the country. It was something I thought long and hard about and cam to the conclusion it lay in three areas – three areas KCC are now focusing their efforts it seems.

I was then asked to join edUKate Training full time as the centre manager, and later bought shares and became the Managing Director. It had happened…I had become a proper grown up! This complete career change was incredibly exciting to me. It wasn’t my first time in the education sector, I once worked as a teaching assistant – but this time, it felt like something I would enjoy doing. It challenged me mentally, and I love to learn and to teach. Adult education seems to be a perfect fit.

The new pressures of work meant i didn’t have much time to dwell and to brood like I had done for the last two years, meaning mentally I was allowed to move on in my journey with HIV. I attempted several times to write a blog post ‘bowing out’ if you like, but the thought of walking away from blogging, which has essentially been my therapy for the last two years, was a decision that wasn’t easy to make.

I suddenly came to realise that, I wasn’t writing, because I didn’t have anything to write about. I started this blog pouring my thoughts and emotions into it in a world new and confusing to me. Over the two years I had been blogging, I guess living with HIV had for me, become just a normal thing – a non-issues. It was then i came to the conclusion, I didn’t need the therapy anymore – I had reached the end of my journey.

I spent four months ‘getting on with my life’ and, although I have friends that I talk to, I started to feel almost lonely. I hadn’t, as I felt I had with the blog, been able to sound off without reservation. It was after a pep talk with a friend urging me to return to it, that I decided I would return to it.

Earlier this year, I am sad to say, I was involved in a homophobic attack for the first time in my life. Walking home after a fun night out, ended with me having to go to a&e and have stitches. I did what I always do, put a front on it and pretend like I was ‘strong’. The sad truth of it, was that it had affected me deeply. I was worried about going out and avoided it for two months.

On my second night out since, I was again, attacked by a drunk. This time, it wasn’t a homophobic related one – I was just literally caught in the crossfire of another fight. This time, it really got to me. Both of the attacks have had their toll on me – so much so, I refuse to go out in my hometown anymore.

Earlier this month, I visited Brighton. It was a short visit but an eventful one as always. I was there to see a good friend of mine, and spent the day having serious talks, laughs, jokes and of course, a few cheeky drinks. It was a visit I thought would be a somber one, but wasn’t. I also visited an ex partner and cleared the air…a conversation that gave me a massive feeling of closure.

An incident happened in Brighton – an utter betrayal of someone I probably should never have given my trust. I won’t talk about it because I wouldn’t give them the glory of being talk about. It did however, give me the push I needed to finally write the book I have asked to write for the last two years.

It has been incredibly liberating, if not a little scary.I am glad I have finally found the courage to share the story before I was diagnosed. Whether the book is a ‘bestseller’ or not doesn’t matter to me, it’s almost like the missing piece of the puzzle and like the last step in my bid for freedom. I will of course keep you updated!

The biggest part of my year, I still can’t share – which is a shame. I am working on what started as a side project with work, but has turned out to be something bigger than I could ever have imagined. I am looking forward to being able to share it with everyone….but for now, I am not allowed!

2014, whilst eventful, has been a very a great one. Thank you for sharing it with me, and for your unconditional love and support. I wish you all a very happy, healthy and safe new year!

All my love, as always,

Jayce

xx

 
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Posted by on December 31, 2014 in My Blog

 

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Refocused. Recharged. Returned.

Hey everyone!

I was sitting in my office two weeks ago. Coffee in hand, post it notes scattering the desk, head all over the place.

I am concentrating all my efforts at the moment on my new project. It is something a world away from anything I have ever done before – but as with other things I have done before…it’s a huge challenge that is going to an uphill battle. It will be worth it if I get it right – which means the battle is ultimately worth the battle scars.

I was discussing it with a lady I know, who attended the launch of Train The Change – expressing to her about the self-doubt I have cast upon myself. She reminded me of the start of my journey. The battle with the job centre. The struggles I have faced in stigma. The creation of the TTT campaign….and short of shaking me…she did everything to convince me that I could use these experiences to drive the new project.

She asked about this blog – and what I was doing with the activism side of my life. I explained to her that I had taken a back seat, and felt my journey,or rather my struggle, had come to an end. Something I explained to you all in August. I also told her about something I had been feeling for a while before I stopped blogging.

I had felt like so much was going wrong for me, I used my blog as a way to get all my bottled up and reserved feelings and emotions out. This,whilst it had helped me – wasn’t so positive for those reading it. I felt like in doing this, I had become stale and uninteresting – no longer relevant in what had been such a huge part of my life.

She stressed to me that whilst my struggle was over, and my journey to acceptance had come to end; you guys would want to what happened next – where the journey had led me.She also said that people had been supporting me – and whether or not my posts were all about living with HIV or not – people would still want to read…and that she and her family had missed my posts.

I thought about it for so long, and realised that for so long I had so much support and love given to me….and to disappear, whilst I needed the break, was unfair i guess?

From the bottom of my heart I have to thank Tina Kydd for that conversation. Not only did it help with me with my work struggles and doubts…she gave me the courage I needed to come back to what I honestly LOVE doing!
So I have decided that, I would start writing again! I just hope you guys will enjoy reading it!

A few little updates to start I guess!!

I am still living in Kent, with my wonderful parents! The house is a little crowded with Mum, Stepdad Steve, Sister Gemma and her boyfriend Mark and my niece Ellie and myself, all under one roof! It’s nice to be in a full family home though I guess!

I am the MD of a company – and I LOVE my job, and as soon as I can tell you more, I’ll let you know what the new project is! All i can say is, it’s huge!!

I am single…been that way for a while! I have been on a few dates and recently met with an ex partner for drinks and briefly thought it would rekindle, I have since decided it’s not the right thing to do. History tells me it’s not right for either of us.

Whilst it’s nice to go on dates, I rarely go for date two. I have no interest in one-night stands or purely sexual encounters. I am at a point in my life that I just want someone to cuddle up with and share my life with. I want to meet someone that actually makes me happy, and that I’m not going to realise 6 months down the line, isn’t compatible.

I do have a date on Saturday with another guy. He seems very nice so far, and I remain optimistic that the date will go well!

Well….for now, that’s enough rambling!!

I hope you are all well!!

All my love, as ALWAYS

Jayce
xx

 
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Posted by on December 7, 2014 in My Blog, Support Not Stigma, Train The Change

 

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HIV – Am I over it?

Hey guys.

I’m sorry it’s been so long since I have posted…with work, a (now ex) partner and lots of other commitments, I simply haven’t had the time.

Updates are small, and some insignificant – but I have had a few emails to ask where I am and to let you guys know I am ok.

Work has been crazy since I joined full time as the centre manager – which means a LOT of work and long hours! I am enjoying it…just wish the pace would slow down a little!

I briefly got all loved up and him and I were happy for a few weeks before things started to fizzle out and I decided it was time to call it a day – ending entirely more pleasantly and quickly than my last breakup!

I am missing Brighton and my friends there like crazy and hoping that next year I can move back and move my work there!

I have started writing – this time not for a blog or magazines etc…but for a novel.

It is nice to write about a character, rather than myself for a change! I will of course let you know when it is finished and hope that I can realise my lost childhood ambition of publishing a book.

I have also been approached about sharing my own journey in a book form – but as yet, that is a decision I need a lot of time to think about – again I will keep you posted!

Now, this post is one I have been struggling to write for a while…but it’s things I need to say and to get off my chest. I am a little upset about it – but it brings about a positive change in me, and I hope you guys can understand.

It has been a long time since I have written on here. I know I have really neglected this side of my life recently. Not just online, but generally activism and even really discussing it.

Over the last few weeks I have started to realise that, for me, being positive just isn’t such a massive issue any more. I have just, kinda got used to it.

This time two years ago, I was in a relationship with a very sweet guy – but the relationship hit an iceberg when I couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t tell his parents. I, then, was incredibly ashamed of my status – I felt like they had a right to know who their son was with….me. A guy living with HIV.

Fast forward two years, to my now recent ex. The fact his family didn’t know about my status, about my activism, about my blogging or Train The Change…didn’t bother me in the slightest.

I had finally seen what the first guy had meant by – they don’t need to know, it’s not essential.

Whether his parents, or indeed my recent ex’s parents found out and reacted badly – even then, for those guys it wasn’t an issue – it would be something the parents would have to come to terms, and deal with.

Going out clubbing and meeting guys this time last year – before they had even began to get to know me – I would jump right out and say ‘BY THE WAY, I’M POSITIVE!’

Whether it was my status or my blurting it out that contributed to the rejection I faced – I will never know.

Again, fast forward to now – When I go out, and speak to a guy I like, it’s just not relevant. I no longer fear they will see it as if I have somehow deceived them.

Long gone are the days where I loathe myself for the mistakes I made to get me here – and hardly ever do I get days I pity myself because of my status. Which, a lot of you will know – very different to two years ago.

It’s so hard to adjust to the thing that consumed my life completely for 18 months to suddenly become just another part of me…but, having said that, it’s an adjustment I am happy to make.

What the future holds for me as a blogger – I’m not sure. I will always fight against stigma…that will never change.

I no longer feel lost, confused, upset, angry or any of the other rollercoaster of emotions that made me start, and continue to write about my journey. I feel like I am at my destination….and it’s good to finally be home.

All my love, always

Jayce

xx

 
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Posted by on August 20, 2014 in My Blog

 

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Crumbling

Hey everyone.

I hoped I wouldn’t be writing a post like this again, however, I have been ignoring it for weeks, and I have to let it all out!

Generally, things are ok, so why aren’t I?

I moved back to my parents house a few months ago, and I love my parents. It’s great being here, after years of being apart, some of that time we weren’t even talking…so I really enjoyed the closeness we had begun to have – no more so than that of my step-dad, to whom I never imagined I would have the bond I have now.

I started working with my mum with the Train The Change course – and she asked to become more involved with edUKate training – of which I am now the manager. That was a massive boost for me, and of course I was very grateful.

We had the launch that was great, and I have even been asked to get involved in even bigger things to do with HIV…it’s what I have been working towards for over a year…so why do I feel so down at the moment?!

One part of it I guess, was being torn away from the friends I had made in Brighton….with the exception of just a few, I have no friends here, and I miss the social life I had….and with every day that passes I yearn more and more for that – especially my closest friend Zoe, some days it actually hurts how much I miss her.

I spent all my spare time with my friends in Brighton, and had such a great time with them!

Here…I work…work…and work…. In my spare time, I still work, simply because there is nothing else to do.

I go to bed at night, alone…which is getting to me now more than ever….and I lie there in the dark and most nights cry because of the loneliness that has steadily gotten worse.

I has got to the point now, where work feels more like a lifeline to distract me from how I feel when I stop….and over the last few weeks, it has ripped away my motivation to do my work…not just to my best….I mean at all.

Things keep happening in my life that raise me up, and I feel like I can get out of bed in the morning…then they are either ripped away at the last minute, or just fizzle out…

I am trying to be upbeat about it….and I really am…things are essentially going better than have for me for a long time.

I just feel like day-to-day I’m going through the motions. I’m not doing anything I enjoy, not having a meaningful life outside of my work.

I have so many unresolved issues that seem to be cracking the surface of this new life I have….and these problems are starting to see daylight through the shattering of the façade that has been subconsciously put in place

I don’t for a second want to get in to the mental state I was last year – but something needs to happen, to change or to improve with me to prevent that….and I simply don’t know what it is….I don’t know how to help myself, which makes it even harder to ask others for help.

I’m feeling like I am failing with the Train The Change project – which has times where it feels like it’s about to have a huge snowball effect…then stops dead.

I have put everything I have in to that – and for it to fail…it’s killing me.

Being an activist has been the only thing that has given my life any meaning….and when things don’t go how I hope they will….it breaks my heart, and everything seems to be affected it.

I will do what I always do, and smile through it and be ‘strong’….or at least try!

Jayce x

 

 
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Posted by on March 31, 2014 in My Blog

 

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2013 – That’s A Wrap!

So the end of another year?!

A what a year it has been!! I have had incredible highs, and some dark lows but all in all, 2013 has probably been the most symbolic year of my life.

It didn’t get off to a great start, I found out shortly after the clock stuck twelve that my boyfriend had cheated on me, and was preyed on by a man who saw HIV as a quick cash scheme!

He then turned out to also be my stalker, and that added to the already incredible strain I was under and directly caused a mental breakdown that saw me treated intensively by the amazing mental health and crisis team in Brighton, whom I owe an incredible amount a gratitude to.

After that my already rocky relationship broke down rapidly and I ended up in a city I thought I was alone in…it turned out I would quickly learn I had made friends that would become not just my closest, but my best friends.

Matt Gartan. What can I say…he is an incredible person. Already dealing with his own problems, which made mine seem trivial, was there at every turn. He helped me through my breakup and gave me the strength to try and make a life in Brighton…even the time I had my bags packed and my train ticket home bought!

He remained a close friend the whole time I was in Brighton and after being with him when he received the tragic passing of his father, I felt an incredible sense of closeness to him. 2013 had given me a best friend.

Then there is of course, and I could never forget my ‘wifey’ Zoe Waters.

Zoe is a person you simply cannot describe nor convey her incredible personality in words!

I wish everyone had Zoe in their life. She, in my darkest hours, made me smile, laugh and gave me hope in a world that seemed utterly hopeless.

Zoe is a woman that cannot help but see the good in people, when others simply can’t.

She has opened her life to people that others would have shunned, and of course, people have seen this as a weakness.

Now however, she is the strongest person I have ever encountered, god knows, she held us both up at times!

I am overjoyed that she is finally experiencing the happiness she deserves!

I loved, and always will love this woman with my whole heart, one that at times hurts because we are now so far apart.

I thank all of my new friends in Brighton…you all became my family for my time there, and you dysfunctional lot were a family I would choose again and again and again!

I also have to take chance to thank four men that continue to be a pillar of strength in my life.

Some of you will know them, and love him just as I do, Luke Buglass, Lee Render, Peter Gracey and Gareth. I love you all, and thank you with all of my heart…I couldn’t got here without your support.

I have now gone back to my hometown after a particularly unpleasant experience…one I am now very much behind!

I have a great job, I am closer with my family than I ever have been and I feel happy and content for the first time in years!

A great thing that happened this year, with the help of you amazing people was raising so much money for THT’s Walk For Life 2013!!

You guys raised an amazing £508.75, which will have already helped people with HIV living in poverty…a moment that in my whole life, I have never felt so much pride!

I hit a low in February when I was subjected to stigma at the hands of a member of staff at my local job centre.

An incident that you guys didn’t just support with on, you in force joined the fight!

My simple little life turned it to a media storm, all be it one I was keen to contain!

I fought for as long as I was mentally able, and I had to take a step back, but only after I was assured that the problem would be not only addressed, but changed!

The training issue would be changed!

An incredible high was receiving a Local Hero award, I think probably the first in my life!

I was nominated by a follower, and now a man I call friend Martin Brown.

After being left devastated by a HIV organisation changing their mind because they felt ‘uncomfortable’ about me hosting an event, it was exactly what I needed to spark a new wave of determination in me.

Of course, as usual, my past was splashed everywhere…a past that they know about because I am so open about it…and I don’t regret that, being open and honest is what makes me ‘Just Jayce’, isn’t it?

I let that bother me, as I have always done…

I don’t have a PR company protecting me, I don’t have a membership to the priory…I am just me…just Jayce…just a regular person.

It seems people forget when they write what they do that I am just a person sitting here…trying to help, make a difference…maybe even save a life…

2013 has taught me a lot about me, about my life…and about this blog.

It has taught me that I can’t, as much as I have tried, prevent people contracting HIV.

I can’t use my experiences to put people off not using protection.

But, what I can do, we can do and we HAVE done, is fight stigma…for me, the worst side affect with living with HIV.

I share with you briefly a comment that was made to me two weeks ago, with someone I least expected it from.

The person had been subjected to Stigma, it was whilst she was that I first met her in 2008.

This person was a pre-op transgender woman, who also, after appearing briefly on The Apprentice, received a gruelling ridicule by the press and by people in the street.

Two weeks ago she said, as I tried to hug her after some 4 years since last seeing her

“I can’t hug you, you know why. I can’t afford to get anything from you”

The ‘you know why’ was referring to my HIV status…by a women who had been subjected to such cruel stigmatisation herself, used such cruel worlds to me.

This time I wasn’t hurt or angry, as I had been at the DWP.

I felt even more determined about the project edUKate Training and I had teamed up with just before.

In my next blog post, I will tell you all about #TrainTheChange.

Sorry to cram all that waffling in to one post…but that was my 2013…totes emoshe!

Lots of Love

Jayce.

A special thank you to my #GayBro, who I know I don’t need to thank, but a man I truly love as a brother xxx

 
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Posted by on December 29, 2013 in My Blog

 

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The Dark Days Are Over!

Well December has certainly been a roller-coaster ride! 2013 has been in general a rough year…but December has turned out to be an incredible high!

It of course started with my returning to Brighton, and let’s not drag it up, but then having to swiftly leave again!

I felt I had hit a huge low point, now living somewhere new and honestly, was scared about what could happen, and about my now uncertain future!

I decided it was time to retreat to my hometown and take stock until after Christmas.

However, to my surprise, my luck suddenly changed!

I got a new job, that I absolutely love, I was around my family and started work on a new project!

Then as if a new job and home wasn’t enough…I met someone :)

We texted for a couple of weeks before our first date.

He was already aware of my status so ‘that conversation’ was short and sweet…something I was worried about once again…

I made him aware of my past, my mistakes in life and even told him that I, at times can be a handful!

Even after all of that, he still wanted to go on the first date!

I won’t pretend it went like a scene in a rom com because some of you will be aware it didn’t end in a lingering first kiss on the doorstep…rather me, drunk, being put in the back of a taxi after being sick…

I woke up not only with a hangover, but filled with dread that a had with every wretch, put him off!

I was very glad that he found the funny side of it all, and still wanted to go on date number 2 yesterday!

We met at Nandos – shared some friggin spicy chicken – I of course pretended like my mouth wasn’t on fire…and both sat there moaning about out hangovers…it was lovely :)

We spent the rest of the day and evening together, and ended up back at his cuddled up on the sofa watching a film…needless to say, I felt it went far better than the first date!

So new man, new job and preparing to launch #TrainTheChange – will tell you all more about that soon!!

I’m just so glad I finally have nice things to write about!!

I hope you all have a great Christmas!!

Loads of love

Jayce
xx

 
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Posted by on December 24, 2013 in My Blog

 

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Disclosure.

Hey everyone!

Sorry again that I haven’t posted, I have been so so busy, and haven’t really had time to sit down and let my mind rest!

However, something has come up again, and its something that really makes me angry!

The question of disclosure.

Now, I do completely understand that some people don’t want to be open about their being positive, and that’s fine, it’s their choice.

I have never hidden my status, and have found that it works for me.

In a recent conversation with a friend, I discovered he was on PEP.

He had had PROTECTED sex, but the condom had split, and only at this point did the guy reveal his HIV status.

My real issue with it is that in my opinion, and a very strong one at that, is that before they slept together, the guy who is positive should have told my friend.

My friend has even said he wouldn’t have rejected him, and it wouldn’t have changed anything, but at least he would have known the risk involved, if as it did, the rare chance of the condom splitting happened.

As a positive person, I am very much aware that I pose a risk to others, as my viral load is not undetectable, and even if it was, I would still disclose!

I feel obligated that with any sexual partner I have, I have to tell them.

I’m not by any means saying that I don’t believe that sero-different sexual relations should happen, because I’m not.

I just strongly believe that disclosure is important, so the negative person can make an informed choice.

Believe me, I know what rejection because of HIV feels like, but as crap as that feels, it’s something I believe has to be done.

I’m just so relieved that the guy told my friend immediately so that he could go and get PEP treatment and the guy is undetectable, so that my friend has a incredibly small chance of contracting the HIV virus.

Sorry about the rant, just had to get it out!

Just Jayce
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Posted by on June 28, 2013 in My Blog

 

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